"Wait"

Don't be so quick to say “Yes.” Instead, “Wait.”

The word for today is, “Wait.”

 I was speaking with my 100 year old Auntie the other day and that was the word she wanted me to tell young women.  Who was she specifically speaking about?   She wanted to tell vulnerable young women- those who felt unlovable for whatever reason-that they didn't have to rush into a sexual  relationship for validation. 

Wait. 

She wants you to know that God has someone set aside just for you. 

Wait.  

Not all attention from a man is good or good for you. When they are pushing you to say “yes” and your answer is clearly “no” that is a sure sign that you should wait.

Let me break it down in small bites so that the young ones can best understand the wisdom of the ages when they hear it.  

Wait: Beloved, there is NO rush to have sex. Sometimes we attach ourselves to the first person to show us interest and we give in to temptation in order to please someone else or to keep them interested. When we find out later that they just aren't  into a loving caring relationship it crushes us. Why? Because sex binds you to your sexual partner for life. We were designed by God to become one flesh through sex.  Not only is a life-long physical bond made when you have sex but also lasting emotional and spiritual bonds form.  Out of those bonds come what we call “soul ties” that are extremely difficult to break; and for good reason.

Mark 10:8 in the Amplified version says:

[8] and the two shall become one flesh; so that they are no longer two, but [are united as] one flesh. 

This “God math” of two becoming one flesh is a Biblical truth and a mystery to most of us. To our minds that math just isn't mathing right? We want desperately to believe the lie that we can have casual sex with someone and walk away whole. In reality it is a spiritual melding of souls that was not meant to be pulled apart. And we wonder why we aren't satisfied in subsequent relationships!

 Imagine you are a paper heart. Every time you have sex, imagine that another paper heart gets glued to yours. Keep adding hearts for every partner. Imagine that you finally meet your spouse.  You try desperately to pull those other hearts off to get back down to the original but it's not working so well.  The glue was stickier than you thought and you're left with a mess to present to your husband or wife.  

Wouldn't it be better to wait?

Wait on the Lord to send someone you can fall in love with and who will be your first sexul experience. The Lord is pleased with marriage and the covenant relationship that is built from the joining of a man and a woman in holy matrimony. 

Psalms 27:14 AMP

[14] Wait for and confidently expect the Lord; Be strong and let your heart take courage; Yes, wait for and confidently expect the Lord.

Wait. God will strengthen you while you wait.

Isaiah 40:31 AMP

[31] But those who wait for the Lord [who expect, look for, and hope in Him] Will gain new strength and renew their power; They will lift up their wings [and rise up close to God] like eagles [rising toward the sun]; They will run and not become weary, They will walk and not grow tired.

Wait. In the meantime, enjoy your exclusive time with the Lord.  Psalms 37:4 AMP

[4] Delight yourself in the Lord, And He will give you the desires and petitions of your heart.

Wait. Don’t whine. And don't compare yourself to others because God has something special just for you. Psalms 37:7 AMP

[7] Be still before the Lord; wait patiently for Him and entrust yourself to Him; Do not fret (whine, agonize) because of him who prospers in his way, because of the man who carries out wicked schemes.

Auntie says, wait. Good advice then, good advice now.

If you want to learn more about the bond created during sex, check out this video: “Why Casual Sex Doesn't Exist” on YouTube. 

Song: “Wait On You” by Maverick City Music